Well it's time for taming our tongues...since it's Tuesday and like I said...
I hesitate in writing this post...
Well as you all know we went to Arizona last week.
As we left California, my hubby and I were very courteous to each other.
Driving through the desert, we focused on being careful with our words wisely and being considerate.
Day 1. - "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Ephesians 4:32
Coming into Arizona, we continued the good time. "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4:2.
My hubby was completely humble...I was completely gentle...words were exchanged with consideration for the one hearing it.
Well you all know where this is going.
Middle of day 3...we're outside Flagstaff...headed to the Grand Canyon...the pinnacle of our trip.
We pull into McDonald's. I want to eat the snacks I bought...but agreed to McD's. So I start getting a little snippy. He snips back. I snip back. He snips back! Then he asked me if "my girlfriend is coming"..."No.. silly that's next week...you're the math teacher...do the math." Then he picks up his phone to respond to THE email beeping at him. I see that a an
attack-to-our-entire-marriage-because-you'd-rather-email-your-principal-over-test-scores as oppose to feeding your children healthy food and by the way I think you're not being a good father by suggesting McDonald's! Oh and we're gonna die because you're text and driving in a parking lot!
Well...that's they way be gentle folks.
So what did my hubby do...he yanked my chain and continued to email someone from church setting up stuff for the next day! (he did pull over for the next one.) and of course I quietly waited.
Nope...I got mad...and quiet.
Now remember we have three sets of eyes in the back WATCHING....
LEARNING HOW TO COMMUNICATE...
PICKING UP WHAT WE DO...
and our boys...
have a knack for MAGNIFYING what we do 1000 times over.
Well I'm sure my hubby could have been thinking...
"Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife." Proverbs 21:19
Bottom line is...
if you are in pain...don't carry on conversations with folks.
I literally have the days before my friend show up MARKED off on the calendar.
We know that's the time when I seem to go a little wacky. (yes...more wacky than normal.)
It took my hubby and I about 5 years to figure that out.
If you know something gets on your nerves...bite your tongue.
Love covers a multitude of sins.
At that point...outside Flagstaff...my hubby and I weren't covering each other offenses.
The problem is we had the 3 sets of eyes in the back... taking it in and learning it all.
This week's lesson with taming our tongue...
before you speak...stop and see if it's really necessary to say ANYTHING!
Oh and that goes for talking about other people kids too...there is something a person said so flippantly about my kids a few days ago... but it's still RINGING... in my ears.
When folks speak without thinking...let's cover that with LOVE.
He who covers over an offense
but whoever repeats the matter
separates close friends...