Well it's Tuesday so it must be time for
Taming our Tongues!
Do you know someone or even yourself that makes jokes at another's expense?
I know you've heard it before...
"Oh...she's always talking about giving money...let's get some from her money tree too!"
That's cute at the time (and you might even look witty)...but the person you might be talking about might have worked for decades saving so they can be a giver.
"Oh...I liked her when she was fat...she looks sickly now that's she's skinny. If she loses any more weight she'll float away!" That might be amusing at the time...but now that she's thin she has reversed her type 2 diabetes and added 15 more years to her life.
"Oh no...he looks smart...but when I talk to him...it's like talking to rocks...he's that boring." That might be true...but let your friend find that out on her own.
(O.k. the above weren't that funny...but you know what I mean)...
Like a madman shooting
firebrands or deadly arrow
is a man who deceives his neighbor
and says, "I was only joking."
A few months back I was sitting having a meal with a few friends and someone made a dig towards me. I didn't catch it...(partially because this person is always like that.)...but my friend did...
She didn't let it pass...
She said..."Wow...that's pretty cold Cathy."
(name change to protect the guilty)
Well that stopped the person dead in their tracks.
When we're in a conversation and a person is making jokes at another person's expense...we shouldn't let it pass. (I AM SOOOOO GUILTY OF THIS ONE. I let too much stuff pass.)
The bible says "Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses." - Proverbs 27:6.
We don't have to create more drama, just acknowledge that it wasn't the best choice of words and move on. That's what a real friend does, sometimes we have to wound a friend...so they don't repeat that type of conversation.
That type of conversation plays on emotions and is dishonest and malicious. There are other ways of finding attention without having to cut other's down.
So be careful the next time you're joking around...make sure it's not at
Blessings and Peace!