Well it's time for TAME our tongue Tuesday!
Last Friday I met with a group of Christian mothers at the park for some R&R with the kids. We had planned on being there...maybe an hour or so. Well TWO and half hour later I was starting to say..."I've got to go." "I need to pick up my son on time." "I need to leave."
The thing was...I didn't want to leave. The weather was perfect...my kid only melted down once (so that was perfect) and our conversation was...pretty much perfect.
I'm not saying everything we said or did was perfect but I can't remember anything I said or anyone said was in the realm of gossiping and slander. Many times when women get together we reduce ourselves to pawns in the devil's playground with our tongues. They go flapping and we start attacking other sisters and brothers that aren't in our mist. (remember we've talked about that it's either jealously, envy or both). When I'm among non Christians...I'm expect that. They're not believers. They're not living godly lives and it's not unusual for someone to start talking about "Did you see her son with THAT new girlfriend?" or "Her husband left her for the secretary? I knew that was gonna happen." It's not shocking for the unsaved to beam when they slander..."She wore the same slacks to work last week...she needs to go shopping." or "Boy, after the baby she really let herself go..."
But among the saved....well that's a different matter. The bible says in Proverbs 17:9 that "He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends." Proverbs 16:28 says "A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends."
Many a Christian friend has been lost to gossip and slander. God doesn't tolerate ugly and folks neither should we. (Well actually God doesn't tolerate SIN...and we shouldn't either.) If you're in the company of slander and gossip and it's coming from a "Christian" you're required to stop them cold. Titus says women are to be "reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine,". Well if you live and play around slanderers and heavy drinkers...you'll end up the same way.
I've had to check myself ...do I have slandering friends who I have to give up? But it's fun to be around them Lord. I don't do the slandering first...I just listen in. Sometimes I defend who they're talking about so isn't it o.k? Proverbs is clear..."a gossip separates close friends." Maybe we can see them in passing but we don't have to stop and give them precious time and energy. We're all so busy and hanging out with like breeds like. I don't want to end up being a gossip so I guess I can't hang around them either.
Well I'm slowly heading on the right track. The girls I were at with at the park aren't perfect. Isabel and I on the phone have stopped ourselves mid sentence to say..."We shouldn't have said that." They're prone to gossip and slander, as am I...but on that day...it wasn't the hallmark of that day.
And for the other times where I've failed...and failed miserably...well I need to pray that I don't put myself in those situations with those people again. God wants us to honor him in what we do...and in what we say.