Note: APPEARS TO LOOK.
When in reality...he's a good kid but has a tendency to be a bully.
For weeks my son has been bullied by this kid. I was trying to keep out of it so my son could handle it on his own. I was giving him ideas of "just walk away from him...just ignore him...yell at him like you do adults" anything! But none of it was working. It got to the point he was claiming he had a stomach ache, a headache, a kidney ache every Sunday morning. Sorry...you've got to go...it's Sunday! No fever, no green snot, no blood, no throw-up...you're going.
Finally, my son did the inevitable. The boy said one taunt too many and my son popped him in the face. Now I don't condone violence. It's one thing when my 4 year old hits out of frustration (not being able to verbalize well - which is so embarrassing by the way...what else says "bad mommy club")...but a 10 year old is another thing altogether (I think I'll get a "bad mommy club" gold card for that.
Needless to say, the boy recoiled and went into service.
Well I decided to tell his grandmother since my oldest son and the bully's brother told me what happened. (I wish you could see the smirk on my oldest son's face...you just gotta love sibling love.)
When I told the grandmother she wasn't even shocked. She laughed and said..."I knew his mouth would get him into trouble and he's had several fights at school".
What? He's had several fights at school? You're not fazed that my kid popped your grandson?
Maybe an eye for an eye isn't such a bad thing.
Two Sunday's ago my son and the "bully" were plotting how they were going to get themselves up a tree they love to climb and they seemed like ole' friends. My son had forgotten what was said and the other boy had forgotten he'd been hit.
Children have the greatest capacity for forgiveness. They don't wallow in self pity (well not often) and they keep moving on. If only we could forgive like our children.
Matthew 18: 21 - Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"
Jesus answered, I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven.
Who do you need to forgive?