I've been around folks ALL WEEKEND and WEEK...so I saw this verse played out more than once.
He winks his eye to devise perverse things;
He purses his lips and brings about evil.
Bottom line is
Watch out for people who grin and wink at you; they have thought of something evil.
Flattery for flattery sake.
Flattery for the sake
of slandering (i.e. sticking it to someone else) while they're talking...
Turns out folks...it's unbiblical.
Yep...just plain ole' sin.
OK you're asking what is flattery that's sinful and what isn't?
It's the thought behind the comment.
What's the reason you or I, for that matter, are saying what we're saying.
BOY! I have several examples from this weekend and yesterday....but I can't use them...
One...to protect the innocent, and two...I'd be guilty of slander.
OK...I'll use one...
and try my best not to be slanderous...
I was sitting in the company of church friends...I say it that way because we wouldn't be friends if we weren't all going to the same church (or maybe we would...who knows)...we're just having a meal and hanging out. My husband and another man had just left the table and it was just us women. I was still turned away from them...but started to listen to their conversation as one woman gushed and glowed about a certain child.
That's ok...this child deserves the praise, as do all children when they do well.
and then...it happened...
She talked about the child that was next to the "glowing" child...who's parents weren't there.
How she expected this child...because of being just too cute...would have been better...more knowledgeable...blah,blah.
I sat there thinking...(boy this conversation is headed down hill...)
Before one more syrupy comment could come out... she was stopped cold with...
One of the moms said..."well it changes from day to day." And another mom said "just wait...they all have their moments."
Praise the Lord!
Another mom said...
"Yeah...we never know what we're going to get."
Now I'm not saying these moms who spoke appropriately ALWAYS do what we're suppose to do...but in this case... they followed the second half of Proverbs 10:12...
Hate stirs up trouble, and love overlooks all offences.
Don't stir up trouble with your mouth today...look for ways to overlook offences!
Be a blessing to someone today with what you say
...not fake flattery...just God's truth!