O.k. I'm growing and know how to tame my tongue when it comes to someone slandering me...but
Oh boy!! I don't do well in the children department.
Regardless if it's true or not...and you know it's true...if someone says something negative about your kids or your family...you go into mama bear mode.
You're thinking up ways to attack or some ugly little comeback. (Don't sit there smug like you don't...You do too.)
You wonder when the Lord will strike them and you want to be there to watch.
You don't mind being attacked yourself...but you REFUSE to let folks come after your loved ones.
"Oh your daughter...she's cute...even though she's got a lot of weight on." You start that stinkin' thinking. Lord strike her now.
"Oh he's got a mouth on him...can you put a muzzle on it."
You start that stinkin' thinking. "Ummm God..take him out now please."
"Boy...she's already 51 and not married? Is there a personality flaw I don't know about?"
More stinkin' thinking...
You're thinking....lightening...o.k. fire and lightening.
"Man...I hope I don't have your twins in my class...they just wear me out!"
Duhh...they wear me out too...that's not a newsflash!
Well my oldest came home from school, got his snack and said this....
B says to his brother..."Hey Nathan, you know you're older than Jared and he's more mature than you are? You're like the maturity of a 2nd grader and he's the maturity of a freshman."
"So! I like being a second grader." His brother continues to play his legos.
So then the hairs on my head start standing up. MAMA BEAR is starting to rise...
"Umm, Hey B, who told you that?" (I was asking because I wanted to know who to throw my mama bear wrath on.)
"Oh...we had a whole discussion about it in @($&&$, and X@% said it!."
So here's where I had to hold my tongue....and start the rewiring of my brain, (courtesy of the Holy spirit). My initial thought was...MAMA BEAR WRATH is coming. (o.k the statement is true...but I was still upset...)
So there I am...explaining to my child how slanderous that was and how we can't be slanderous. I'm sitting at the computer and type in S.L.A.N.D.E.R and up comes this...
"We are fools for Christ, but you are so wise in Christ! We are weak but you are strong! You are honored, we are dishonored! We work hard with our own hands.
When we are cursed, we bless;
when we are persecuted; we endure it;
when we are slandered, we answer kindly." 1 Corinthians 4 10 and 12
Note to self....after reading the bible the wind has just gone out of my sails.
Then this is what pops in my head...(thanks to no thinking of my own, probably the Holy Spirit again...man was He busy with me...)
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Great! God are you telling me I have to tell him that he should just ignore comments like that? That I have to ignore comments like that?
I want to tell him to stick up for his brother...even if it's true.
I can't even get mad at who said it?
Great...What about the merits of adults holding their tongues?
What about the merits of family honor? What about the feelings of a little boy who always feels out of place feeling MORE out of place?
You say that's not my job? Man...I can't even get angry...and I have to treat folks the same...as if they didn't say anything?
Alright...but don't expect it overnight.....o.k. well maybe in a few hours....o.k. I'll stop the stinkin' thinking...right now. I'll treat the person like it never happened....really...I will!
And by the time I started to write this post...my gentle answer...in my head...had already put "Mama Bear Wrath" out of my conversation and out of its misery.
Isn't God good. So my Taming the Tongue Tuesday post turned out to be an object lesson with me as the object.
The next time you encounter slander...remember to "answer kindly".